Saturday, June 12, 2010

Wedding of an Ex

Today we are at the wedding. 

The groom is a long time (30-ish years) friend of my husband's.  They grew up next door to each other, and his parents still live next door to us.

When I was in Grade 8 I briefly dated this guy ("J" - the groom ... my husband's friend).  "J" and I were friends at school, he asked me out .... didn't really have feelings for him but thought, hey why not, you never know.  As it turns out, I did not have those types of feelings for him, at all, and dumped him after two weeks by taking off on my horse when he saw me out riding.  He followed me for about 5 Km on his bike and then gave up.  So mature of me, eh?

But apparently "J" felt pretty strongly about me back then.  Although I never met my current husband while I was dating "J", he knew all about me before we even met.  After I ceremoniously dumped "J", he spent the whole summer upset about me, crying, getting drunk.  My now husband had to hear all about me all summer long.  It's a wonder he even wanted to date me when we first met.  That was a pretty funny story when I heard about it and I still tease "J" about it.  By that point though "J" was long over me and we had become friends again. 
"J" was best man at our wedding.  Is that weird?  Another ex-boyfriend also attended our wedding and my husband's ex-girlfriend's uncle was our minister and we visited her on our honeymoon.  OK, maybe that is strange, but you have to remember that I was still in high school when we met, so none of our exes were really that serious of a deal.

My husband was also best man at "J"s first wedding.  That marriage ended in divorce so this time around my husband will be a groomsman instead of best man.  "J" doesn't want to take chances of doing things the same way.  The first wedding was the whole Catholic church deal (sit, stand, kneal - it's like an aerobics class in formal wear).  I was the maid of honour.  Thankfully this wedding I am just a guest and it's a much more casual affair, outdoors in a scenic location.  Hmmm, though maybe the full meal deal would be better - I could use it towards my "30 Days of Activity" challenge.

Hopefully the weather is decent.  Hopefully if it's not they have a back-up plan.  Either way, surely I will have some amazing pictures when I get back.

Until then.....

Keep Active!



Marlene said...

Hope you're having a great time at the wedding!

Alicia said...

I had 2 ex-boyfriends at my wedding. Weird? Maybe but I considered them friends. They were high school flings, too. Not really serious love affairs. Haha!

Just wanted to you know that I've been reading your blog religiously but mostly on the Blackberry which makes it SO hard to post comments. But I am reading and every time, I think "Heidi and I are like the same person!" We are 2 peas in a pod, I think. From the eating issues to the body issues to the running goals- the same! It's crazy! Anyway, hope you are having fun!

Fran said...

I don't see why you couldn't be friends with ex boyfriends or girls. I never see mine anymore as I moved away.

I had to laugh that you took away on your horse. I had the similar experience. When I was 16 I had this boyfriend. One day he said to me that after I finished school we would marry and I would stay home. I took my bike and rode home as fast as I could and he followed me but couldn't catch up. For crying out loud: I was 16 years old and I wanted to work after school. You will not be surprised I broke up with him a week later :)

Syl said...

you are hilarious and definately a catch Heidi!

Missy said...

You were the maid of honor at your ex's wedding!?!? That's hilarious!

Hope you have a great time at the wedding. Sounds like a nice, fun, casual event!